Raising a baby is one of the most beautiful, challenging and life-changing things that I’ve ever done and am doing.
The pandemic reached Malta later than other parts in Europe and I am quite thankful for it. It meant that I had the first 3 months with my baby boy free of any panicked buying, people wearing masks on the street, and we were able to have visitors coming to admire our newest family member.
I believe becoming a new mom can make you feel lonely sometimes, with or without a pandemic. Whether you’re a single mom or your partner has to go to work and you are at home all day taking care of your baby. Not having family close to me from either my side or my partner’s side, has not been easy. However, I can imagine that all those new moms during this pandemic must have felt pretty lonely too.
I have been trying to hold on to things that kept me feeling okay during this time, and I thought I would share it with you.
If the weather allows it and I feel energetic enough – because everyone knows, especially with a newborn baby you don’t get a lot of sleep – I will go for a walk.
Normally I will check if there is any small things that I need for dinner, like fresh fruits and vegetables and I will go for a walk with baby Sam in the pushchair, picking up my errands along the way. If I don’t need to get anything, I will just go around and walk along the sea. It has really been doing me good getting outside as often as I can, and of course Sam likes it too!
Of course if I feel very tired, didn’t get enough sleep or I have a lot of stuff to do around the house, I sometimes don’t go. And that’s okay too 🙂 Just do what you can.
Ask for help
One of the things that is sometimes very difficult for me to do, is ask for help! However, when they decided to close all non-essential shops, the government also gave the notice that children were not allowed into supermarkets. That meant that I couldn’t do the supermarket trips with Sam anymore, even though it was also one of the things that I kept looking forward too. (I know, I like grocery shopping).
I asked for help from my friend, she is literally an angel and has saved me so many times during this crazy time. My partner doesn’t have a driver’s license yet, so she would either go do the grocery shopping for me. Or, we would go in the weekend so my partner could stay with Sam and I still can go out to the supermarket with my friend to do the shopping. At least I would still be getting out of the house and spend some time away from the baby + spend time with my friend. Even if it was only one hour, this kept me sane as well.
Another thing which I am really grateful for is that I will spend time with Sam until my partner would arrive home. He would then take him to the beach in the afternoons. This also allows me to do my own thing or prepare dinner without having any distractions. In the afternoon the temperature is perfect and Sam absolutely loves it and daddy gets to spend some quality time with him too. In the weekends or when we are both free, we try to go to the beach all together. Fresh air is always good for you!
During this entire pandemic, I have only switched on the TV to actually watch the news twice. I believe that news affects me negatively and I don’t want to focus on everything that is going on in the world every day. I prefer to read the news, so I can choose which articles I want to read and this way I still stay up to date with what’s happening in the world.
I think this has helped me personally, to not go into panic-mode that much and kind of watch the situation unfold from a distance. Of course we were being careful but not watching news and staying updated through online media sites has definitely helped to focus on the good things and living in the present.
It’s okay. You are not alone or the only one going through this.
Sometimes if you catch yourself feeling overwhelmed, panicked, stressed, just take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are not the only one going through this and you are not alone. If you really need to talk to someone, text a friend, video call your family, I am sure they would be happy to listen to you and see or talk to you. You can also search for some communities or platforms online where you can share your story and get support from other moms going through the same thing. I love the community on the app “What to expect“. It consists of moms all over the world and it’s a really supportive community.
It seems as if slowly we are getting back to normal life. Although I started working from home now, and childcare centres remaining closed. I am lucky to have good friends around me that can help me out with babysitting, grocery shopping and just being there. Because sometimes as a new mom, that’s all you need from your friends, to just be there.
With my parents so far away and them not being able to fly in and us not being able to fly out. We try to video call whenever possible and it’s a nice way of catching up and them being able to see Sam grow from a distance.
How has this pandemic affected you as a mom and how did you manage?
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